Monday Musings: The Best Way to Meet and Introduce People


{They became best buddies quickly}

I’m not one for small talk. I like to cut to the chase. Part of it is because I’m naturally shy, but once I feel comfortable around someone, I can be more open. So, talking about the weather does not really make me want to wax poetic about my deepest feelings. However, I understand that the weather is a relatively safe starting point and (most of us) are probably feeling vulnerable when meeting someone new.

While traveling abroad in Europe, I noticed something different when I spoke to strangers. No one asked me what I did for a living. If it came out, it was through the natural flow of  a conversation we were having and not by directly asking me. Maybe this is not such a phenomenon for many people, but I find that in the US, one of the first questions I get asked when meeting someone new is, “So, what do you do for a living?” (Or some iteration of that question.)

Some people may take offense to the question and think it’s just another way to ask “So, how much money do you make?”. And, in some cases, maybe some people just want to know out of curiosity. However, when meeting or introducing people, it seems there are better ways to go about it. I came across this article and thought it was a great way to “break the ice” whether you are meeting someone new or introducing people.

Here is an excerpt from the article:

“She ends up feeling like her occupation is the only way she can connect with people, and if they don’t find her work interesting enough, then she must not be very interesting.

And that’s a lie, of course.

But it got me thinking. Carolyn is one of the most interesting people I know. It’s why I want her around when I have friends over and why I call her first when I’m looking for sound advice. She knows how to meet you in deep waters and pull you back up for air without panicking or judging how you got there.

She shows up more than any friend I have.

And that’s exactly how I’m going to start introducing her.

I don’t mind being introduced based on what I do, but I would argue an introduction opening a window to who I am would be refreshing for both parties.”

I LOVE that! And, I would love if someone introduced me or themselves to someone new in that way. I think it is so much more refreshing and interesting than the usual “Nice to meet you. I’m X and I do Y for a living.” What do you think? Do you do the usual introduction or do you have other ways to do it? I would love to hear your thoughts!

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